Dating in Boston is fun. You get to meet new people and find out exciting things about their lives, some of which you’ve never experienced or even heard of before. However, dating is not a game of “I Never” where anything goes, especially on the first couple of dates. While you’re all getting to know each other, there are some aspects that should be kept out of the first few dates if there’s ever going to be any chemistry between the two of you.
Politics
You’ve heard this before, but it needs to be emphasized. Do not talk politics, completely. The reason is, you believe whatever you believe and your date believes what they believe. You are definitely not going to change their mind over sushi and white wine and if you try to, chances are they might get offended. It’s okay to mention current events in passing but don’t go all out stating your position on gun control or immigration.
Your Ex
Dating in Boston can feel like a close knit community where your date may somehow know your ex or somehow they have the same interests as your ex. Maybe they were both at the same Red Sox game last weekend or they’re both regulars at the House of Blues, whatever it is, don’t raise it. Continuously bringing up your ex on a first date does not make you look interesting. It only gives your date the impression that you’re not truly over him/her. That goes for bad mouthing them too. Negative energy is not a lighter for chemistry.
Marriage or That Biological Clock
Don’t talk about it, at any point. No matter how in love the mature couple across the table looks. This one’s really that black and white. Your date has a clock too, and it’s definitely ticking. Remember you’re both just getting to know each other. From there you can know whether you’re going to call each other often and arrange a next date. Marriage on the first date is a scary topic.
The Bedroom
You may turn out to be more adventurous than he is or she might think you’re only after a physical gathering. Either way, none of you will get that call for a second date. Get to know each other better first.
Opening yourself to the dating game is a beautiful journey that does have its rules. Dating in Boston is no different and if you need guidance, we always have a dating coach ready to assist.